Tease and Denial Goddess, Dominatrix Amanda

Continuing where we left off in my last entry - Domina Amanda has never told me the age of this Dominatrix friend. This wasn’t a denial in response to an inquiry, I’ve never asked the question since it’s rude. But from what has been said in the BDSM stories told, I’m guessing that they met when her friend was in her mid to late twenties and Domina Amanda was around eighteen/nineteen. I do know there is less than a ten year age different between them, so I base my guess on that (and how hot is that?? A teenage Goddess Amanda, paired with another dominatrix roughly 26 years old. What an intolerably delicious tease to imagine! I intend to politely encourage her telling of more BDSM stories from that time in her life. I so pressed my pleasure at the thought of this that she shared a small picture of herself with me, taken in her late teens).

(The picture to the right is of Domina Amanda at just about 19 years old -> )

Like our beautiful young Goddess, her Dominatrix friend had also gotten involved with BDSM at a young age, first working professionally in a femdom dungeon in the early Nineties - one of “the better known Houses in Manhattan“ at that time - (I think I can guess which one, since it opened in 1990 and would fit what’s been said in conversation to me. Domina Amanda understandably won’t say exactly because she doesn’t like giving out personal information about other people - these women all have to deal with stalkers and sickos who try to intrude in their personal lives). After that, this Dominatrix friend worked in a number of BDSM establishments internationally and did some fetish modeling along with more elite femdom work, eventually returning to Manhattan to open her own private, appointment only House with a friend (another dominatrix she had known for years), which the Goddess describes on her Blog as “[the two dominatricies'] own an exclusive femdom dungeon in Manhattan… a private, two level affair with three well stocked rooms, along with an oubliette, office and leather lounge“.

Domina Amanda told me that - “since we were having sex and loved to spend time together, one thing led to another and she offered me a job working with her as an apprentice. I already had more BDSM related experience at the time than that title would suggest, but it was an appropriate step and a welcome opportunity, considering both the context and the company I’d be sharing. She knew I wanted to develop my own fetish related skills more, and learn about the more serious, business end of BDSM, and since we already got along very well, the idea was perfect. Besides, sometimes you want to spend time with someone on your own level… in this case, another dominant woman… and the two of us together were an excellent pair. So for me, I got to spend more time with a new friend, got a job that paid well, and got to explore of my own sexual interests in a environment constructed for femdom that was perfectly suited to female domination and BDSM. While for her, she had a welcome companion and partner in session.”

“I also got along very well with her business partner - this hot, but evil looking asian dominatrix. You (meaning, me) would have liked her but she would have been too much for you. This lady was ruthless orgasm denial personified ~laughs~, I mean she never let a slave have an orgasm… male or female, didn’t matter… total denial, never ever an orgasm, and I loved that. In her mind, only the “free” were entitled to cum, and slaves only existed to facilitate the pleasure of their owners. So orgasm denial wasn’t fetish play, it was the slave’s appropriate condition. I very much agree with her, but I think if you never let a slave release, they get set in an expected routine. Allowing the infrequent, unexpected chance to cum builds hope and uncertainty in the slave… making the negative end of tease and denial all the more crushing when his hopes are ruined.

[This evil looking asian dominatrix] was just pure savage in all her femdom sessions, and an expert at Needle and Electricity Play. Brutal nasty with a cane, but fantastic to watch ~laughs~. She had narrow slits for eyes, that gave the constant impression that everything bored her, and she could drop her face expressionless at will… pure, cold silence that would make male slaves cower.”

The BDSM stories she must have about that place have to be incredible, and I know there is some much more she has to tell about this particular Dominatrix friend. I will try to learn what I can and promise to share what I am allowed to speak of with you here.

And at that point we were cut off by another dominatrix phone sex call she had. It was at least a 4 hour long one because she was still on the call when I left to go out for the evening. The only bit of gossip I can share with you on that is that the call was with a long term orgasm denial slave she enjoys torturing. Domina Amanda doesn’t talk about her calls with others unless there is either prior agreement or total power exchange, so “going to be a while… this guy is a lot of fun… very serious into cruel femdom play… heavy orgasm denial so we get along great“, is all I have to report on that.

Until next time.

Domina Amanda has also posted 3 new femdom recordings to her blog here - Free Audio Sex Stories - these are mp3s linked directly to that post.

Picking up where I left off unavoidably long ago, Domina Amanda was talking about her history with a professional dominatrix she became involved with when she was living in NYC frequenting its femdom BDSM scene. Since the conversation went towards sex, she took a moment to talk about how she likes to give another woman an orgasm - “[Domina Amanda - ] When I have sex with another dominant woman, I like to see an orgasm rage, not whisper in. We attack each other - not lesbian domination and submission, but an intense, shared animalistic thing ~laughs~. With a slave of either sex, it depends… I usually like to tease and torture a lot, as you know ~laughs~ and play up denial very hard… then when things are at that severe point, I either abruptly stop, leaving them begging pathetically… or I just go off and let it come flooding out suddenly so the release is overwhelming. Depends though, sometimes it’s better to let the tease softly build and let things slowly develop right like that to climax… sometimes I like to give a ruined orgasm, which is just plain nasty in such a good way ~laughs~… and yes, you can do that to a girl too… other times, when I feel especially cruel, complete orgasm denial is what I want to see… all different options depending on the person and of course my mood, as always.”

At the time, reading her words had me so worked up that I didn’t ask half the questions I probably could have on a topic as excellent as this. My apologies, but all that talk of orgasm, and tease and denial, by this beautiful young Goddess was just too much for mere mortal man, and I lost focus LOL. I love BDSM stories like these. Who can resist hearing a woman talk about how she likes to tease and torture her slaves, manipulating them to orgasm or cruel denial.

“[Domina Amanda - ] Like I was saying, pretty much from the moment we met at that femdom party, the two of us [our Goddess and her Dominatrix friend] just had this connection that worked perfectly. Both of us were bold, confident females, but there were no domination games between us - none of the pissing contests that often end up happening between two dominant women which end friendships as fast as they begin, especially in the competitive world of professional BDSM. Those stories all go the same and make me sick… which is why you value the true friends you find in this scene.”

Besides going to femdom parties together, the two spent their time shopping, receiving admirers to allow their worship and offerings, making appearances in BDSM clubs, and otherwise did the things one would expect two beautiful young dominant women would do. The Dominatrix introduced our young Goddess to many of her friends and she quickly became more involved in the NYC BDSM community - “[Domina Amanda - ] Though I’ve drifted in the last couple years, especially since I moved out to the SF Bay Area. The BDSM scene here is good, of course, but it’s not the same as NYC in terms of the people. I don’t mean that in a bad way, it just doesn’t have that ‘home’ feel the City has. The private femdom parties I have been to here have pretty much all been good, and for the most part I only have good stories to tell with regard to my experiences… I just miss Manhattan ~pouts and laughs~.“

“Before meeting her, I had already had a good deal of friends within the local BDSM community [in NYC] but [the Dominatrix] knew the more of the ‘elite’ crowd and the professional dominatrix circuit. I intended to be deeply involved and was moving in that direction on my own… which is why I already had as much acceptance as I did and was being invited to private femdom parties like the one where she and I met. But my familiarity with the more dedicated and serious lifestyle crowd was accelerated by [the Dominatrix] opening doors that otherwise would have taken time to build enough trust to open. Don’t at all think I was using her though… I liked and respected her too much for anything like that, and still do. It doesn’t matter how dominant you are, or how skilled at femdom, you don’t really get anywhere serious in the BDSM community without knowing people. Skill and commitment is acknowledged hand in hand with that, but if people don’t know you, you don’t have trust.”

My next chapter will talk more about this friend, and how the two of them went into business together.

Until then, Domina Amanda has added a very hot free femdom audio tease to her blog entitled - Absolute Orgasm Denial, that you should check out.

When last I wrote here, a dominatrix phone sex call had interrupted my conversation with the lovely Domina Amanda. I decided to use that as a logical point to pause in the telling of this story, even though we did speak more that night after her phone sex call was done (she did mention in passing to me that the call was a cruel tease and denial session ending in a very abrupt and cold orgasm denial as she announced “I‘ve had enough fun with you, you‘re done for tonight“ and hung up the phone on him. Hearing her talk about it was a cruel tease for me too, which is probably the reason she told me).

I didn’t have to remind her where we left off, she picked up the story as if we had only stopped speaking a moment, and told me more about the BDSM party, the lesbian pain slut she was whipping, and the intriguing dominatrix who stepped up to join them.

This BDSM story’s progress so far - we were in Manhattan at a private dungeon, an exclusive invite only event catering only to the serious minded, and tolerating only female domination. Our beautifully cruel Dominatrix Amanda was enjoying a bound pain slut when another equally cruel dominatrix joined them. Neither domina had spoken a word to the other yet, and the lesbian slave was helplessly trapped between them.

The slut was tied to a St. Andrew’s Cross, and Domina Amanda was using a short leather whip on the back of her legs, while her soon-to-be friend was using her fingernails to tease the tightly bound body of the helpless female slave. They did this together for around a half hour, still not speaking even as much as an introduction to one another. They just silently went about tormenting the lucky girl, driving her to repeated orgasm in her masochistic euphoria, while exchanging smiles and nods of approval.

After they were done with the pain slut they proceeded to spend the rest of the night at the BDSM party together, moving from room to room, slave to slave, victim to victim. Domina Amanda stalked the halls with leather whip constantly in hand, trading the earlier flicker whip for a variety of other options “as fit [her] mood”, while her new found dominatrix friend preferred to use her leather gloved hands to claw and pull, caress and tease, spank and twist. She says that at first they didn’t speak, instead sharing thoughts only with their eyes in a way that was very sexy and intimate. It was at least 2 hours after they had first met that words were finally exchanged, and then only to make basic introductions, before kissing each other deeply - “[Domina Amanda - ] And she was a damn good kisser. I’m very aggressive when it comes to sex and for that matter any intimacy in general. That doesn’t mean I can’t be a gentle tease ~laughs~, it’s just that my preference is for the kind of rough sex that consumes those involved. We kissed each other as if there were not a single person there, and then again, as if we were the two everyone else wished they were with… which I have no doubt was the case.”

Being a femdom party, the dungeon was inhabited mostly by women - with a high proportion of fetish attired dominatrix guests. The slaves were a mix of personally owned pets set to serve, some fetish models and professionals - about 2 to 1, female to male. There was one special case in this, a male slave who had been put on open use by his owner to signify his crossing the line between casual BDSM and serious femdom slavery - “[Domina Amanda - ] He was young… maybe 22, but with a teenage face. He had already experienced forced bisexuality that night… it was the demand his new dominatrix owner put upon him to prove the sincerity of his want to be truly owned. She had left him bound over a bench in the middle of one of the larger rooms… his ass still leaking cum - another male sex slave had been ordered to fuck him in front of everyone - ~laughs~ no orgasm denial there that is for sure, that stud must have dumped a half cup in him… his ass just kept dripping more. When we got to him his cock was very hard, and a sight like that screams tease and denial to me, so we spent a good hour toying with his cock and balls… sometimes cruel and rough, sometimes just a soft tease to drive him really wild… but we felt the right of release was that of his new dominatrix owner only tonight, regardless of the party‘s protocols… and so our time with him ended in orgasm denial… as such things usually do at femdom BDSM events ~laughs~.”

They ended the night by returning to tease the female slave they had originally met over - [Domina Amanda - ] I took up that cute little flicker whip again and really went off on her. She had been hanging there all night, so I had to bring the slut around and prepare her for the four foot single tail that we intended to finish her with. She still had energy to cry out in pleasure and pain as that long leather whip ran along her back and ass. She collapsed in the end… nothing new for her, she really got into this shit wonderfully. We both played with her pussy as she hung there, giving her an orgasm in that nice way as a reward for bringing the two of us together.”

“You see, I’m not always about tease and denial… that’s an unfair accusation that has been wrongfully pointed at me ~laughs~. Strict orgasm control, yes… nasty, sexy tease, yes… ruthlessly selfish domination sex, hell yes… but not always denial.”

This seems like a good place to pause in this story. More of this dominatrix tale will come soon, as Domina Amanda told me much more about this episode in her life than I have written here so far. Next we get into the experiences of the two together in the BDSM community, and how Domina Amanda first got seriously involved in professional female domination.

And you can always read more about this beautifully cruel dominatrix in her Femdom Diary - Tease and Denial

Also - those interested in listening to Domina Amanda tell her own BDSM stories and fantasies should check out - Erotic Audio Stories

(Took me a couple days longer than I anticipated, but picking up where I last left off - )

Part Two

Domina Amanda said this to me about the femdom party at which she first met the dominatrix who was to become her close friend - “[the pain slut] was one of the ‘fetish toys’ there that night - one of the girls that was tied up for general use. Of course limits existed but at these parties there would be a bunch of slaves - some just serving, others tied up and available for play. Since these femdom parties were invite only you knew everyone was going to be cool, and so the slaves would have a variety of people work on them throughout the night - all dominant women of course, all serious about the BDSM community - pure femdom. Sometimes in groups, and sometimes longer, individual sessions… but the slaves would be helpless there, just open to whatever the female guests wanted. Denial would not be an option to them though once started… preset limits existed as a house rule, but once you went in as a slave you would be expected to perform within those rules… as was each dominant. Slaves could orgasm with the permission of the dominatrix controlling them at the moment, and forms of bondage sex did occur. Most enjoyed seeing the female slaves orgasm as often as possible… but for the male slaves it was tease and denial more than allowed release.”

(While the domination portion of these parties was totally female, the slaves were a mix of sexes, including some shemales and feminized bisexual males.)

Domina Amanda continued with - “[the pain slut] loved the whip… I mean, she would get wet from just seeing you hold a whip that she knew was going to be used on her soon… easy to bring her to orgasm with one… whip, cat, flogger, crop, just so long as it was leather - she had a real serious fetish for leather, also in clothing - and since I love them all too, but from the female domination side ~laughs~, much of my time that night was spent with her ~laughs~. And she knew how I was with one… I get this intense look in my eyes ~grinz nasty~, so she was damn happy when she first saw me standing behind her, whip in hand… she was like half way to orgasm before I’d really done anything more than tease her a little… ~laughs~ such a greedy pain slut. And us together always made for an intense lesbian domination session… I will tell you more of her in the future, she’s the kind of stuff that the best BDSM stories are made of ~laughs~ and I’ve kept in touch with her through the years so more stories are sure to be in the making. She‘s also great to play very evil orgasm denial games with because when she gets worked up she totally loses herself in her need. I‘ve seen her beg almost hysterically when she’s on the verge of orgasm but not allowed to cum. Orgasm denial was more painful to her than a long single tail… beautifully so ~grinz~.”

And then this about how she met her soon to be close friend - “[the pain slut] was tied to a wooden St. Andrew’s Cross (the whole party was setup in fine BDSM style with excellent atmosphere)… naked but for the leather hood she loved to wear and a pair of 10 eye Doc Marten’s which looked hot on her when she was stripped like that ~grinz~. I think I was using a simple flicker whip on the back of her legs when this tall female comes up… she’s got a long black skirt on with boots, and a tight black leather jacket zipped halfway up her neck… not all decked up in stereotypical dominatrix gear… rather reserved, but definitely classy and so obviously about femdom that no “uniform” could ever be a necessity. Without pausing, she walks directly to the bound slut… smiling to me as she takes up position on the other side… and with a nod of approval from me, she starts to rake our captive’s back slowly with her long fingernails, not to the point of clawing, but enough to get a reaction… playing a sort of tease and denial with her… softer, then harder… faster, then slower… and we quickly fell into a rhythm together, matching each others movements… whip to nails… complimenting or contrasting as fit the reaction we wanted to get out of the girl. We smiled at each other and just stayed like that, grinning without saying anything, as our little pain slut writhed against the cross…”

At this point we were interrupted by a dominatrix phone sex call she received, so I will pause things here. Future BDSM stories I will probably break up in this way, reflecting how the narrative was received. More in my next post).

I am lucky to be able to talk to Domina Amanda often, best of all when we have a tease and denial phone sex session together, as I think you can guess , my fetish is all too obvious. But we don’t always speak on the phone. Usually we talk in IMs and Chat when she’s not too busy and she chooses to allow her slaves to enjoy her company. At these times the conversations are no less stimulating than a dominatrix phone sex call - what conversation with Domina Amanda would not be stimulating? Sometimes we talk of BDSM, and other times about life as a whole. The talks I enjoy the most are those dealing with the femdom stories of her life and approach to BDSM, both because she has so much experience, and she speaks in such a blunt, dominant manner.

I try not to be annoying with questions, but since Domina Amanda’s diary includes so many personal thoughts about herself and her relationships, along with her take on BDSM and female domination, I always end up wanting to know more. When we’re on the phone together I don’t ask many questions, I just shut up and the Tease and Denial Goddess rules me. But when she allows me to talk with her online I usually end up asking her about the world of BDSM as she has lived it.

My particular interest is in the stories she tells about the people she has met in her life and been involved with. Obviously also, what she says about her personal experiences in the femdom community, her BDSM stories as a whole, and the side comments she makes about things she has done which, by the way, end up being such a tease since she intentionally leaves you wanting to know more (I’ve mentioned this to her playfully and she just laughs saying, “good, you boys are too curious as it is, a little denial helps keep you in line… and when that isn’t enough, there is always a whip and a healthy dose of pain ~grinz evil~“).

I was lucky enough to have a few conversations with her not so long ago, when she was online through most of an afternoon into the night. Between the dominatrix phone sex calls she took, we talked about tease and denial (of course lol), how much she enjoys ass worship, favorite aspects of BDSM, and then I started asking her questions about her femdom diary. We spoke about some of her opinions regarding the femdom community, and then about certain BDSM stories she has told of people and things in her past. She shared some very interesting details with me that further develop what she has written in her diary. I asked if I could repeat them here and she said yes, so I plan to take notes when she and I talk, and share what I find out with the rest of you here.

My next post will be the first of a series where she talks more about her early times as a dominatrix.

Domina Amanda has a dominatrix phone sex radio show she is hosting with her friend, the lovely Mistress Alexis. The name of the show - Devilish Tease - comes from how the two of them bring different sexual styles to the program, just as they have different approaches to phone domination. The delightfully sensual Mistress Alexis is a “sensuous tease” while the dangerously beautiful Domina Amanda is the feminine perfection of “devilish denial”. The show is an orgasm waiting to happen.

They both share a love of domination sex in all its femdom forms, especially when it comes to exploiting the men who are lucky enough to be the targets of their attention. Even though they are quite different in some ways, it’s obvious they’re good friends and there have been suggestions that at private times they have been much more (passing comments about Domina Amanda and how much she loves to wear and use strapons, have led to knowing laughs from them both - the sort of feminine laughter that gets a man’s cock hard in seconds with an orgasm crying to be released from his sack and the words “lesbian strapon” dominating his mind).

Both are amazingly erotic examples of female domination - a playful flirt paired with a dark temptress - and their show is a mixed radio program and sex chat where they each discuss their thoughts on what we all want to know most about - hot dominatrix sex, hotter women, BDSM stories and female domination (tease and denial being an obvious personal favorite for me). The chat component allows others to participate by asking questions and adding their own feelings about what is said.

They’ve also done some “How To” and “What does this mean” sessions where they have taught others more about sexuality, femdom, BDSM, and how to get the most out of your sex life (best is when other women are present, asking questions about how to become better lovers and how to dominate their boyfriends through orgasm denial, and a better understanding of their own sexual power over men. It’s so damn hot hearing dominant women teach other girls about domination sex, by sharing their BDSM stories as examples to inspire others).

Even better - after the show the pair are available for private Two Dominatrix phone sex calls at a discounted rate. Having spoken to them both I can say with no reservation that the combination of the two styles of female domination and orgasm denial is amazing, and they play off one another so damn well that even after you cum (if they allow it), you’ll already feel another orgasm building fast in its want to give itself up to the two of them too.

The show starts at 10:30pm Eastern on - Cock Radio
The chat opens at the same time in - Community Kink

Neither location requires any downloads to use, they’re simply Java based programs (no downloads, assuming your computer is Java capable).

The Two Dominatrix phone sex special occurs after that but make sure you get there early or you might wait all night for a chance to serve them (or contact them and make an appointment), and that kind of orgasm denial - the missed opportunity - isn’t near as good as what they have in mind for you.

Domina Amanda - the pure confidence of this woman leaves no doubt that she is beyond any simple cock tease or sexual player, but a lifestyle dominatrix for whom female domination is a natural part of life. The depth of her intelligence marks a woman who is never satisfied with the knowledge she has, but instead is forever gaining more. “Bitch” is not a necessity for her; she doesn’t need to yell foul words at a slave to make him feel his submission, the effect of her presence speaks for itself, though her fist can come down very hard when she desires it.

She goes into amazing detail about herself in her online femdom diary, talking candidly about BDSM and her sexual experiences, sharing her thoughts on various subjects and glimpses into her life through the femdom stories she tells. All of this and more, displaying a deep understanding of herself and the topics she chooses to discuss (of note to those sharing my tastes - tease and denial is a frequent theme, not just in stories she tells and free audio clips she shares, but a number of essays she has written about tease and denial, orgasm denial, and related fetish topics). This is a young dominatrix who has lived greatly, much more than what her years and youth would suggest, but more importantly, she has learned much from what she has done, in that way only the truly superior are able to do.

The truth of who Domina Amanda is becomes clear to anyone taking the time to listen to what she shares in her writing. And now that I’ve had the pleasure of talking to her on the phone, I can honestly say that all of it is true of the person herself. And I can also say that the reward of an incredible orgasm is waiting for those who submit fully to her irresistible beauty and uncompromising female domination.

A beautifully dominant woman who knows how to tease and torture with a mix of pure female domination and that seductive, sensual quality that only the hottest women possess. A quality I have never seen any woman exploit so masterfully as Domina Amanda in a tease and denial phone sex session which she manipulated like an artist.

Dominant women talk of owning your cock. You’ll happily give that to her, and she will take so much more. Everything Domina Amanda wants will be hers, and you’ll give it all wishing you had ever more to offer.

I must warn you before you call her for that first tease and denial phone sex session. The first conversation pulls you in. The voice wraps around you and you start to slip away. Your submission pours from you before you realize what is happening, even if you‘ve never sought female domination before. And then that first, incredible orgasm changes everything. From that point on, no orgasm will ever feel quite the same. Nothing will, and you will always want to be with her. That is why Domina Amanda is said to be so dangerously beautiful.

“You’re not going to cum.” Like I said, such a blunt statement of pure female domination and strict orgasm denial, said with the simple surety of a woman who does as she pleases and expects to be obeyed.

From there Domina Amanda described why my hopes for an orgasm at her hands would end only in the denial those few words made so very painfully clear. Simply put - the sexual demands she puts upon her slaves overwhelm all but the most dedicated. And it is only those bare few whose submission to her is of the level of absolute that she demands, that ever enjoy the rewards of her approval.

She explained how she could easily work me up like no one had ever before. A femdom tease and denial session where she would take hold of me, torture me, dominate me in every way, building up a “raging orgasm” inside of my cock that could only be released when I had given myself to her totally. Complete submission to her female domination. I would either be her perfect sex slave, receiving reward when she chose, or a chastity slave locked in permanent orgasm denial until the day I had proven myself to her, my dominatrix owner.

In her words there, Domina Amanda warned me not to waste her time with excuses and wants; whatever enjoyment I hoped for meant nothing to her. My cock was something she would use to enjoy herself, a sexual toy to be fondled or abused as fit her whim. My sexual desires were of no consideration, I would only be something used by her. And I would submit to this cruel and beautiful dominatrix and all she expected, else she would ruin my hopes with the cold orgasm denial she promised when she first spoke.

The search I did for “tease and denial” seemed innocent LOL. I found so much more than I could have ever anticipated, and as I read more I found my cock getting harder for this beautifully cruel dominatrix.

But it wasn’t just what she said in that essay ( read it here - Orgasm Denial), more than anything is was how she said it. The confidence of a woman for whom female domination is as natural as breathing is to us all. My words here fail her in trying to really convey the effect because she is a far better writer than I, and you can’t really describe something like that, you have to read it yourself - Femdom Diary of Domina Amanda.

Continued - Tease and Denial Phone Sex